Do children have a love language?
Of course they do!
They are HUMANS, just younger ones.
Which leads me to my next question, how often should we say “I love you” to our children?
My answer is OFTEN, like everyday!
Personally, I try to tell my daughter I love her everyday. When I drop her off to school, after telling her to have a good day.
After having to say no, I remind her it doesn’t mean I don’t love you.
Sporadically when we are watching a movie or even when she walks by the kitchen.
I do this because I wholeheartedly believe it is important to pour love into our little ones.
I believe it gives them a sense of security and belonging. It also boost their confidence and how they feel about themselves.
In motherhood we are showing our love by taking care of our children daily. However, younger children may not understand that as an act of love. (I mean did you, not until you probably were older.) However, they do understand your words, your hugs, your kisses and the moments you spend together.
If your children loves your cuddles, hugs and kisses their love language may be physical touch.
If your child always wants to watch a movie with you or be in the same room, their love language may be quality time.
If your child enjoys gifts ( which most children do!) their love language may be gifts.
If your children show giggles or a sense of happiness when you say nice things towards them about them their love language may be words of affirmation.
If they are appreciative of things you do for them like making them dinner, running their bath etc. Their love language may be acts of service, (However this may not be something they comprehend until they are a little older.)
All of these are break downs of types of love language which is how your child may feel or even give love.
Now, let’s imagine a child that does not feel loved. A child who doesn’t hear the words I love you.
Imagine how that may affect them growing up and as a grown up. They may feel worthless, have low self esteem, feel as if they aren’t deserving of love and unfortunately so much more. It may even cause them to act out, simply because they never had or felt loved.
Just think about yourself as a child, the warmth you felt when your parents said I love you.
Even how you feel as an adult when your little one tells you that they love you!
It’s simply a good feeling!
A good feeling is what your young ones deserve! Love is what we all deserve.
When the love starts at home your children can carry it with them for a lifetime.